A clearer way to think about dating standards

What this tool is for

Dating advice often reduces standards to being too high or too low. This tool takes a different approach: it helps you name what matters, understand why it matters, and prepare for a fair conversation without ranking you or another person.

How it works

Twelve core questions create a complete Standards Map across safety, communication, future compatibility, and lifestyle preferences. Eight optional questions can add detail. Published rules sort each response into Keep, Discuss, or Flex, and every result explains the reason behind the category.

Read the complete methodology to see the domains, sorting rules, safety override, and current rule version.

The principles behind the product

• Safety is never treated as a preference. Consent, autonomy, and freedom from coercion can never enter Flex.
• Raw answers stay in the current browser tab. They are not stored in our database or sent to the payment provider.
• The Standards Map is deterministic. AI cannot change a category, priority, or safety rule.
• The free result is complete on its own. The optional paid plan adds conversation preparation, not a hidden score or withheld answer.

An optional next step

The $15 Next Conversation Plan turns the finished map into one focused conversation: what to raise, an exact opener, two follow-up questions, response signals, and what to do afterward. It is a one-time purchase with no account or subscription.

View pricing and purchase details or see the fictional sample report before deciding.

Clear about the limits

This is an experimental educational tool, not a clinical assessment, compatibility test, safety certification, or substitute for professional advice. It cannot tell you whether to stay in or leave a relationship.